Me and my boyfriend have been daiting for 3 years on and off and hes the only boyfriend ive ever had and all of my firsts are with him. A year ago he hurt me the worst hes ever hurt me and betrayed me and im not over it yet. Hes done nothing since then to make me question his loyalty and my brain trusts him but for some reason my body and heart cant get over it. When im with him i feel so cared about and loved but then when im not with him i think about how i wish he did more romantic things like planning cute dates, bringing me flowers, writing me cute notes. He carries so much guilt for hurting me and throughout the year i know hes been working hard to gain my trust back but i cant help but feel like i want all those little things. Is that unfair? I feel like asking for those things is unrealistic because he already does so many sweet things for me but i also dont want to feel like im settling. He also doesnt really kiss me unless its the nightime and were having a sleepover over and it makes me sad because i want him to give me little kisses throughout the day. I’ve mentioned this to him before but he just says he doesnt think about it or he just doesnt want to and it honestly really bothers me but thats just not his love language so i feel bad like im trying to change him.