toxic relationship

Cheese_81044 🇩🇿

3 weeks ago

Feeling Heartbroken

i was in a relationship with someone for a year and he was planning to marry me but when the marriage feel closer I started to think about us and if can really live with him and I was confused I mean he made me love him then he starts gettin mad when I get mad and I ended our relationship when we w

Potato_83388 🇩🇿 my sister always believe what a person says when they r angry and for me you did the best decision and there is something in witch I believe and always makes me relieved and this is that no one marry the husband or the wife of someone else so if you broke up that just means he is not meant to be your husband. and believe you deserve a gentleman and always BETTER.

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Strawberry_82243 🇮🇳

4 weeks ago

Feeling Confused

my love life is now a mess....he recently sended me this when I talked out with him..how I could I call this toxic despite everything that's has happened my heart aches and I don't know what to do,I need help.. "Love I’m really, really sorry. Please don’t be upset, it hurts me when you are, and

Pumpkin_82559 🇩🇿 idk if u want to forgive him and try again then do it and see if he really wants to change but tell urslf like in ur mind that its the last chance and if does smthn wrong again then leave him that’s what i think

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Strawberry_82243 🇮🇳

1 month ago

Feeling Meh

Cookies_80069 🇮🇳 leave him, he’s using you. You’re young, I think you need to understand some men like this will use and find someone else as a replacement when he’s satisfied or done with you. Since you aren’t saying anything he’s keeping you for his satisfaction. You’re better than him and beautiful. Don’t let such creeps enter your life to ruin you. I did the same but I chose to leave. I blocked him everywhere.

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I need help!is it getting  toxic?
i was going through  depression without knowing for 2 yrs straight  then as I was going  for counselling  I missed lots of classes and the teacher told about my condition to classmates...it was the worst..all those sympathy at that time felt like a mock on me.
Then I suddenly  on social platform I met a guy!I was thinking of deleting my acc then his pp caught me curious so I thought of replying  to his text and see although at first I thought he was some kind of perverted stalker at first . We texted then he said he saw me in his friends story and ended up following me and although he forgot  how I look but was certain that he wants me.
we shared our secrets  as a let out at first then he asked me out which I rejected atleat 3x then I said yes inorder to use him to overcome whatever i was feeling and forget my ex too.Yes at first I was using him as I thought we'd never meet...he sended me flowers and not...i started getting attached to him ,i told him about how i was sexually abused by my own cousin he understood me and gave me time although i ended up doing booty calls w him and then that day came when he actually did came from delhi  to my place to meet me.I had no choice I went w him ,I was wearing  casual a fitting top where my boobs were popping big and a short .
he saw me hugged me and open the car door for me.He took me on a ride in the highway in an outskirt area he stopped.I knew what was coming  next ,he faced towards me and kissed me I tried to face the other side as I was flustered the he grabbed my face and told me calm down and close my eyes and kept on going and placed his one hand on my b**bs from inside and started squeezing although it was outskirt area it was a public space i was scared but he kept on going till there....
oh btw he is 7 years older than me!
on the second  date he took me to hotel for sex
it's been 1yr he uses verbal and physical  abuse almost all time whenever it is related to a male friend...and drag me for sex even if I'm lil busy he says stuffs such that I end up listening to him...I've become submissive to an extend I can never imagine.
he said Don't even dare to think of leaving him

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Cherry_80972 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Confused

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the way i just wanna kms and end it , but everything seems hard to do , i am tired i have health problems , cevere depression and anxiety , also trauma like a lot of trauma that keeps ruinin my life even tho i'm tryin to change
my only escape was my boyfriend and he is or he claims to be "metfehem" and he understands my case my anger issues my depression my health issues my loneliness and he always tried to be here for me but when i'm at my lowest and start hurting my self he starts being selfish he has so much ego and he always realizes what he've done late and thr problem is that i'm too attached bc he was my bestfriend for 5 years and we're gonna be officialy together for 1 year tomorrow and i'm so sad i wanted to celebrate it with him yes he does like gifts etc small attentions the only problem is whebever i feel something or i'm at my lowest i never find him he says that he cannot control anger and that he has a problems with feelings but the thing tht i feel thag he jst doesnt love me ?
i can't get over the fact that he left me alone and he slept many times and i kept waitin for him crying and self harming my body i suffered too much but whenever he realizes he does it too late and he cries to me and say sorry he even start hittin himself to the point where i believe that he really loves me and that he didn't do that on ourpose
please i need advices what do you think of behaviour do you think he loves me and is it normal to love someone but you cannot control your anger to the point that you can drop him? i am at my lowest and i've always been and i never dropped him but he can drop me at anyxmomebt and everything we talk after the problem he says i swear mashi bl3ani and wlh i love you i'll do my best and he even cried
he went through a lot i know that and that's what keepin  and givin me patience to stay with him but it's tll much
why doesn't he think the same
why do i feel that he's fakin his emotiobs
even if he czn't let me go
please i need help i need explanations
i feel lonely
he says i zone it and his past trauma made him kinda "cold hearted"and  he doesbt feel fear

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Cherry_80972 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Drained

don’t even know what to do anymore. i loved someone who was supposed to be my peace, someone i trusted with my heart and my scars, my depression, and my darkest moments. i thought he would care, that he would be there when i needed him most, but he isn’t. he gets angry, pushes me away, stays cold, a

Hazelnut_79930 🇩🇿 oh baby i was at the same situation i got too sick bcz of him i died inside i got ill mentally until I exploded i told him i will never come back this time he stalked me he did everything literally he begged me he begged my friends to say smth but i was stand girly plz don’t let ur feelings get in control and leave , you will cry so and maybe miss the moments but you’ll know it’s the best choice

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Avocado_80766 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Exhausted

Me and my partner broke up a month ago we had been together for 4 months and now healing feels really heard at the beginning i felt good because this relationship exhausted me but rn i miss him, 3 days ago a friend of mine told me that she was happy for me because it was toxic and she added that he

Mango_78834 🇪🇬 it seems like you still want to fix everything between you and him and get back together no matter what

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Cherry_80972 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Guys lol he made me live shit my whole life and whenever he does something bad to me knowing that m going through depression and i have a disease and he knows abt it I ALWAYS go back to him and help him and i understand his situation but when it's me ???? lol his ego wins and he goes , leaves as if

Cookies_81104 🇩🇿 first of all, cry, ça va te soulager chwiya, après think logiquement, love is shown by effort, Ida maydirch effort pour toi, donc il t'aime pas. t'es attaché, l'attachement machi mlih, t'as sûrement l'idée pttr que personne d'autre va t'aimer et tt maybe a cause de ta maladie ou ton caractère ou JSP, en tt cas dont think that ! you deserve to be loved , respected, and cared for, he just doesnt

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Orange_80993 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Guys, I really need to talk about my story. I’ve been with someone for more than a year. At first, he was amazing with me — he loved me so much, and I loved him too. But with time, he started to change, just like people usually do. He began to show me his real side. The way he talks to me changed a

Blueberry_81034 🇩🇿 he doing drugs.

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Marshmallow_80453 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Lost

i love someone alot , to the point i can't live my life without him. thts so harmful for me ikn , but i tried evry way to not feel for him , stay away from him , moving on ... but I couldn't even when somtimes he doesn't treat me like i want to , and when I get upset for something he don't like it

Coffee_80494 🇩🇿 Listen , I'm not sure how old are you but it seems to be a one side love story , I think leaving that isn't a choice but it's a thing tou need and must do asap , because you're in a toxic relationship and that will drain your energy day after day may Allah bless you 💙

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Avocado_80766 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Me and my partner broke up a month ago and now healing feels really heard at je beginning i felt good because this relationship exhausted me but rn i miss him , 3 days ago a friend of mine told me that she was happy for me because it was toxic and she added that he would already had replaced me and

Kiwi_79768 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Lost

yk how it feels like staying with someone u don't actually like and he feels like a burden and only brings negative energy to u so u wanna quit but u can't cuz u're used to talk to that person everyday and knew him for 5years and have no one else but him...

Potato_72527 🇪🇬

2 months ago

Feeling Fed up

how could I ignore the feeling of being not enough I honestly know that I'm doing my best in anything but sometimes it isn't enough I tried my best to keep a relationship going but he went and cheated on me w a girl who he used to say a lot Abt her and every time they break up he comes to me like

Cherry_73516 🇭🇷

2 months ago

Feeling Drained

I really don't know anymore. I have a problem with someone. She always nit picks problems. Even tho everything is fine, she'll always find a way to create some. At this point I feel like she just feeds off negativity. She will say she hates being angry but lacks the self awareness of realising that

Avocado_73502 🇪🇬 i feel sorry for you

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Strawberry_65203 🇦🇺

3 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Over the last 12–18 months, I was engaged to a man I deeply loved and had envisioned a future with. But our relationship slowly began to unravel in painful, traumatic ways. It became emotionally damaging, and at times, crossed into abusive territory. Including an incident of physical violence that l

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 Let yourself grieve, but don’t stay in the place that broke you. Surround yourself with people and things that make you feel safe, and take small steps each day toward healing. Your future holds more than this pain—trust that better days will come.

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I have tried everything to hold on. I have communicated, compromised, supported my then fiancé’s dreams, and even justified the harm being done, both to myself and to others because I loved him that much. But instead of my vulnerability being met with accountability or care, I was shut out, criticized, and made to feel like I was the problem.

After returning from a traumatic experience overseas, where I nearly died, I came back changed. Raw, scared, and needing comfort. But my then fiancé told me to “get over it.” That moment stuck with me, and the pain of being emotionally abandoned in my time of need has not gone away.

Even as our relationship became more fractured, I held on. Continuing to defend my then fiancé, even to those who said, “This isn’t okay.” But eventually, my fiancé broke up with me, two weeks ago. And even after ending the engagement, my ex fiancé began sending messages that were accusatory and hurtful. Blaming me for the breakdown of the relationship, accusing me of “talking shit” behind his back, and demanding explanations for things that weren’t true. It became clear that rather than taking responsibility, my ex was more concerned with his own reputation.

In the aftermath, I confided in a close mutual friend. Someone I believed was a neutral and safe place. But this friend broke that trust, sharing vulnerable conversations with my ex fiancé and worsening the tension. That betrayal cut me deeply. It felt like being hurt all over again, like no space was truly safe. So I chose to set a boundary, deciding not to bring this friend when collecting my belongings, and instead asked someone else. A longtime friend and ex-coworker who is a true emotional support, to come with me.

Even with this plan, I still fear how I’ll be perceived. I’m worried I’ll appear “messy,” like the pain of the last few weeks will be visible on my face. Because it has been brutal, being abandoned again, misunderstood again, and made to feel like my trauma is my fault.

I’ve also admitted that in my darkest moments, I’ve questioned whether surviving that traumatic experience overseas was worth it. That maybe it would’ve been easier not to come back. I feel lost. Like everything I thought I could count on has fallen apart. I don’t know what to live for, or how to believe I’m still worthy of love and safety after being hurt so deeply.

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Strawberry_50482 🇪🇬

11 months ago

Feeling Sick

okay so i know this player who hurt me year ago, i was a fool and I believed him , he was cheating on me , he literally a beey bad person, we blocked esch other and he came agiain begging to come back he said he changed and some pretty lies , i didn’t give him another chance i know he is a liar , he

Apple_38269 🇪🇬 Girl u deserves the best, let him eat shit. and don't trust anyone so easily, I'm telling u they are just boys not men. and u don't have to break his ego and so on just delete him completely from ur life like he was nothing take this as a lesson also don't go hard on urself, life is full of good things to do so yeah raise ur head and remember "Queen Never cry"☝🏻👸🏻💗

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Moon_87762 🇭🇺

Overthinking my friend's depression, can't sleep

I couldn't sleep and now i'm gonna sleep less then 3hours. I started overthinking so badly about losing my friend. She has very bad depression and i also don't have the best mental health and it just pulls me, my energy down so bad, i'm so worried and i'm the type of person that i have to help, save them from bad and the fact that i can't makes me go mad. Ever since i befriended her and she started to mean so much to me i started to fear she does something bad to herself, now that she tires to unalive herself and it drives me crazy overthinking it all, constantly thinking about her trying to attempt. I don't fully know ab these kind of things as i know her for 10month and i'm just probably very much overthinking it all. I really care about her and all i want is to help her even a little bit where i can(even tho i make the worst decisions) and i also hate(but somewhere also can understand) the fact that she lies to me about things like if i ask her about her health and stuff and it just doesn't help my trust issues, bc of these i really don't trust her and just overthink more, like when i ask her something i assume her answer is a lie. I'm also at bad at some things but i just can't get myself to tell her how i really feel and what bothers me and stuff:/ I don't consider myself depressed but i also had suicidal toughts and stuff and it came back(i couldn't get myself to do it tho i think) ever since i met her, tho i can't blame her as i'm very glad i met her, i just wish she had a better life that she deserves. *sorry if it's too weird or childish os something and also sorry for my bad english* ...see more

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Cherry_87431 🇩🇿

I hate being talkative and drained from people

for 2 months now , I’m going to university and coming back home alone I pass my day all alone until I get back home , i don’t talk to people anymore and for a while my energy and my mental stability are very stable like so stable, and when I communicate over 3h with other i feel so drained and tired it makes so sick to the point i can’t even describe, sometimes all i want is to have real friends but deep inside I can’t maintain a one friendship, i push people everytime I feel bad but when I talk it’s just that pure side of me apearce and I hate this energy I hate giving them this I haateeeee being nice or talkative ( I’m a very talkative person) btw , once I talk I can’t stop and I hate this bc I can’t control it ...see more

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Marshmallow_86970 🇿🇦

I'm just tired of everything. Life is killing me.

I am just tired of everything. I wish that I could have a better life, but life is killing me from the inside. I don't know how to tell people that I don't like them. I don't know how to accept help, or ask for it. I don't know how to say sorry by actually meaning it. I'm done with everything. I am just wishing that life could get better. ...see more

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