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Hazelnut_90442 🇲🇦

1 week ago

Feeling Heartbroken

I am feeling hurt, desperate. I was abandoned when I was a day old. I was then adopted by mom. This created a deep abandonment wound which gets reactivated each time I get abandoned, ghosted, neglected or not chosen. I had this online friend who was a big support to me. I started developing feeling

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Lemon_82700 🇩🇿

3 months ago

Feeling Meh

I started realizing that life isn't that bad when i learnt how u deal with trauma, situations and attachment. • Once u turn off the caring button and u start being busy over stuff that are more important, u'll forget other stuff that are not. • once u realize that ppl are perspectives, as u can me

Candle_84324 🇩🇿

3 months ago

Feeling Confused

i went to a friend, something traumatic happened to me and i went to her for comfort, i was hoping she’ll say a nice word, she came to me before and i always helped always said kind words for her, never judged her, and i was hoping she’ll do the same, but she straight ahead called stupid and didnt s

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Cherry_80972 🇩🇿

3 months ago

Feeling Confused

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the way i just wanna kms and end it , but everything seems hard to do , i am tired i have health problems , cevere depression and anxiety , also trauma like a lot of trauma that keeps ruinin my life even tho i'm tryin to change
my only escape was my boyfriend and he is or he claims to be "metfehem" and he understands my case my anger issues my depression my health issues my loneliness and he always tried to be here for me but when i'm at my lowest and start hurting my self he starts being selfish he has so much ego and he always realizes what he've done late and thr problem is that i'm too attached bc he was my bestfriend for 5 years and we're gonna be officialy together for 1 year tomorrow and i'm so sad i wanted to celebrate it with him yes he does like gifts etc small attentions the only problem is whebever i feel something or i'm at my lowest i never find him he says that he cannot control anger and that he has a problems with feelings but the thing tht i feel thag he jst doesnt love me ?
i can't get over the fact that he left me alone and he slept many times and i kept waitin for him crying and self harming my body i suffered too much but whenever he realizes he does it too late and he cries to me and say sorry he even start hittin himself to the point where i believe that he really loves me and that he didn't do that on ourpose
please i need advices what do you think of behaviour do you think he loves me and is it normal to love someone but you cannot control your anger to the point that you can drop him? i am at my lowest and i've always been and i never dropped him but he can drop me at anyxmomebt and everything we talk after the problem he says i swear mashi bl3ani and wlh i love you i'll do my best and he even cried
he went through a lot i know that and that's what keepin  and givin me patience to stay with him but it's tll much
why doesn't he think the same
why do i feel that he's fakin his emotiobs
even if he czn't let me go
please i need help i need explanations
i feel lonely
he says i zone it and his past trauma made him kinda "cold hearted"and  he doesbt feel fear

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Toast_80829 🇩🇿

3 months ago

Feeling Drained

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hey ppl am stardust not my real name of course but something closer to being myself 
am a nineteen old person with the mindset of a thirty year old women, I grow up early out immature fase I guess I been trough a lot as a kid 
let's started with how complex my story is 
once I was born by my a biological mother and father who I never knew I was given to an older lady as a baby cuz she couldn't handle taking care of me , to an older lady who never been able to have kids the same lady took my half brother in before I was born we have the same mother but different fathers since I was a kid my current mother preferred my brother over me although we're both not her biological parents she was with someone back then her hasband but no longer after they get divorced my brother was a kid and I was a baby growing up I was terrified of my current mother to do anything wrong or say anything wrong since she had serious mental and anger issues she been trough a lot herself but it wasn't my fault yet I payed the price hard 
now am not saying that she doesn't love me maybe she does but not in a healthy way and sometimes I deeply believe she doesn't like me as a person  she doesn't like the way I dress or act or anything she's not that supportive in anything except my studies and she have high expectations for me all the time and it's draining 
during my phone childhood I spend it trying to satisfy her doing everything to make her proud but at some point I realised no matters how much I did for her she would never chooses me over my brother it was so hurtful slowly I lost trust in her stopped telling her anything about me or myself cuz I was afraid she might use it against me later 
as a kid I even got molested couple of times not once but I was too scared to tell my mother, same thing with getting bullied at school I got hit and made fun of but never told her sometimes duo to her anger issues when i was a kid she used to beat me and say the most hurtful stuff sometimes hit me with glasses and even once she throwed a knive on me i was twelve , she never trusted me with anything and kept making assumptions about me whenever i wan a express myself  guess I never felt safe to share those kind of stuff with her
anyway I grow up to be a messy person my mind is constantly foggy  
lately I gave up on ppl I had one relationship with a guy and it was never genuine from his side but looking around i noticed that most ppl are terrible specially men so I gave up on that idea 
I don't wanna get married ever

although I always dreamt of being a mother but I have to gave up on that for my own safety

I also lack a trust in men because what I been trough and growing up with no one to call father linger deeply and grew to influence me

but I think I lost myself  and I might need therapy so bad but am short on money

I also attempted to suicide  couple of times and even though of ways to do so and listen to that voice in my head couple of times

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Coffee_81760 🇩🇿

3 months ago

Feeling Exhausted

to be honest i don’t know where to start, there’s so much i’m feeling so much that is going on… im a young woman im 30 i live in algiers i have a degree in communications i worked for 8 years in different fields and i started my own business few months ago but I can’t work on it because my life isn

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Grape_75256 🇪🇬

5 months ago

Feeling Drained

i feel so numb all the time i hate the way that no body can see how much im going through on a daily basis. every time i think everything is getting better i end up reliving the worst year of my life my heart is full with so many secrets that i can’t share, everything is so bottled up that im scared

Strawberry_65203 🇦🇺

6 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Over the last 12–18 months, I was engaged to a man I deeply loved and had envisioned a future with. But our relationship slowly began to unravel in painful, traumatic ways. It became emotionally damaging, and at times, crossed into abusive territory. Including an incident of physical violence that l

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 Let yourself grieve, but don’t stay in the place that broke you. Surround yourself with people and things that make you feel safe, and take small steps each day toward healing. Your future holds more than this pain—trust that better days will come.

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I have tried everything to hold on. I have communicated, compromised, supported my then fiancé’s dreams, and even justified the harm being done, both to myself and to others because I loved him that much. But instead of my vulnerability being met with accountability or care, I was shut out, criticized, and made to feel like I was the problem.

After returning from a traumatic experience overseas, where I nearly died, I came back changed. Raw, scared, and needing comfort. But my then fiancé told me to “get over it.” That moment stuck with me, and the pain of being emotionally abandoned in my time of need has not gone away.

Even as our relationship became more fractured, I held on. Continuing to defend my then fiancé, even to those who said, “This isn’t okay.” But eventually, my fiancé broke up with me, two weeks ago. And even after ending the engagement, my ex fiancé began sending messages that were accusatory and hurtful. Blaming me for the breakdown of the relationship, accusing me of “talking shit” behind his back, and demanding explanations for things that weren’t true. It became clear that rather than taking responsibility, my ex was more concerned with his own reputation.

In the aftermath, I confided in a close mutual friend. Someone I believed was a neutral and safe place. But this friend broke that trust, sharing vulnerable conversations with my ex fiancé and worsening the tension. That betrayal cut me deeply. It felt like being hurt all over again, like no space was truly safe. So I chose to set a boundary, deciding not to bring this friend when collecting my belongings, and instead asked someone else. A longtime friend and ex-coworker who is a true emotional support, to come with me.

Even with this plan, I still fear how I’ll be perceived. I’m worried I’ll appear “messy,” like the pain of the last few weeks will be visible on my face. Because it has been brutal, being abandoned again, misunderstood again, and made to feel like my trauma is my fault.

I’ve also admitted that in my darkest moments, I’ve questioned whether surviving that traumatic experience overseas was worth it. That maybe it would’ve been easier not to come back. I feel lost. Like everything I thought I could count on has fallen apart. I don’t know what to live for, or how to believe I’m still worthy of love and safety after being hurt so deeply.

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