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Lemon_82700 🇩🇿

3 weeks ago

Feeling Meh

I started realizing that life isn't that bad when i learnt how u deal with trauma, situations and attachment. • Once u turn off the caring button and u start being busy over stuff that are more important, u'll forget other stuff that are not. • once u realize that ppl are perspectives, as u can me

Candle_84324 🇩🇿

4 weeks ago

Feeling Confused

i went to a friend, something traumatic happened to me and i went to her for comfort, i was hoping she’ll say a nice word, she came to me before and i always helped always said kind words for her, never judged her, and i was hoping she’ll do the same, but she straight ahead called stupid and didnt s

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Cherry_80972 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Confused

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the way i just wanna kms and end it , but everything seems hard to do , i am tired i have health problems , cevere depression and anxiety , also trauma like a lot of trauma that keeps ruinin my life even tho i'm tryin to change
my only escape was my boyfriend and he is or he claims to be "metfehem" and he understands my case my anger issues my depression my health issues my loneliness and he always tried to be here for me but when i'm at my lowest and start hurting my self he starts being selfish he has so much ego and he always realizes what he've done late and thr problem is that i'm too attached bc he was my bestfriend for 5 years and we're gonna be officialy together for 1 year tomorrow and i'm so sad i wanted to celebrate it with him yes he does like gifts etc small attentions the only problem is whebever i feel something or i'm at my lowest i never find him he says that he cannot control anger and that he has a problems with feelings but the thing tht i feel thag he jst doesnt love me ?
i can't get over the fact that he left me alone and he slept many times and i kept waitin for him crying and self harming my body i suffered too much but whenever he realizes he does it too late and he cries to me and say sorry he even start hittin himself to the point where i believe that he really loves me and that he didn't do that on ourpose
please i need advices what do you think of behaviour do you think he loves me and is it normal to love someone but you cannot control your anger to the point that you can drop him? i am at my lowest and i've always been and i never dropped him but he can drop me at anyxmomebt and everything we talk after the problem he says i swear mashi bl3ani and wlh i love you i'll do my best and he even cried
he went through a lot i know that and that's what keepin  and givin me patience to stay with him but it's tll much
why doesn't he think the same
why do i feel that he's fakin his emotiobs
even if he czn't let me go
please i need help i need explanations
i feel lonely
he says i zone it and his past trauma made him kinda "cold hearted"and  he doesbt feel fear

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Toast_80829 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Drained

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hey ppl am stardust not my real name of course but something closer to being myself 
am a nineteen old person with the mindset of a thirty year old women, I grow up early out immature fase I guess I been trough a lot as a kid 
let's started with how complex my story is 
once I was born by my a biological mother and father who I never knew I was given to an older lady as a baby cuz she couldn't handle taking care of me , to an older lady who never been able to have kids the same lady took my half brother in before I was born we have the same mother but different fathers since I was a kid my current mother preferred my brother over me although we're both not her biological parents she was with someone back then her hasband but no longer after they get divorced my brother was a kid and I was a baby growing up I was terrified of my current mother to do anything wrong or say anything wrong since she had serious mental and anger issues she been trough a lot herself but it wasn't my fault yet I payed the price hard 
now am not saying that she doesn't love me maybe she does but not in a healthy way and sometimes I deeply believe she doesn't like me as a person  she doesn't like the way I dress or act or anything she's not that supportive in anything except my studies and she have high expectations for me all the time and it's draining 
during my phone childhood I spend it trying to satisfy her doing everything to make her proud but at some point I realised no matters how much I did for her she would never chooses me over my brother it was so hurtful slowly I lost trust in her stopped telling her anything about me or myself cuz I was afraid she might use it against me later 
as a kid I even got molested couple of times not once but I was too scared to tell my mother, same thing with getting bullied at school I got hit and made fun of but never told her sometimes duo to her anger issues when i was a kid she used to beat me and say the most hurtful stuff sometimes hit me with glasses and even once she throwed a knive on me i was twelve , she never trusted me with anything and kept making assumptions about me whenever i wan a express myself  guess I never felt safe to share those kind of stuff with her
anyway I grow up to be a messy person my mind is constantly foggy  
lately I gave up on ppl I had one relationship with a guy and it was never genuine from his side but looking around i noticed that most ppl are terrible specially men so I gave up on that idea 
I don't wanna get married ever

although I always dreamt of being a mother but I have to gave up on that for my own safety

I also lack a trust in men because what I been trough and growing up with no one to call father linger deeply and grew to influence me

but I think I lost myself  and I might need therapy so bad but am short on money

I also attempted to suicide  couple of times and even though of ways to do so and listen to that voice in my head couple of times

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Coffee_81760 🇩🇿

1 month ago

Feeling Exhausted

to be honest i don’t know where to start, there’s so much i’m feeling so much that is going on… im a young woman im 30 i live in algiers i have a degree in communications i worked for 8 years in different fields and i started my own business few months ago but I can’t work on it because my life isn

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Grape_75256 🇪🇬

2 months ago

Feeling Drained

i feel so numb all the time i hate the way that no body can see how much im going through on a daily basis. every time i think everything is getting better i end up reliving the worst year of my life my heart is full with so many secrets that i can’t share, everything is so bottled up that im scared

Strawberry_65203 🇦🇺

3 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

Over the last 12–18 months, I was engaged to a man I deeply loved and had envisioned a future with. But our relationship slowly began to unravel in painful, traumatic ways. It became emotionally damaging, and at times, crossed into abusive territory. Including an incident of physical violence that l

Hazelnut_52786 🇪🇬 Let yourself grieve, but don’t stay in the place that broke you. Surround yourself with people and things that make you feel safe, and take small steps each day toward healing. Your future holds more than this pain—trust that better days will come.

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I have tried everything to hold on. I have communicated, compromised, supported my then fiancé’s dreams, and even justified the harm being done, both to myself and to others because I loved him that much. But instead of my vulnerability being met with accountability or care, I was shut out, criticized, and made to feel like I was the problem.

After returning from a traumatic experience overseas, where I nearly died, I came back changed. Raw, scared, and needing comfort. But my then fiancé told me to “get over it.” That moment stuck with me, and the pain of being emotionally abandoned in my time of need has not gone away.

Even as our relationship became more fractured, I held on. Continuing to defend my then fiancé, even to those who said, “This isn’t okay.” But eventually, my fiancé broke up with me, two weeks ago. And even after ending the engagement, my ex fiancé began sending messages that were accusatory and hurtful. Blaming me for the breakdown of the relationship, accusing me of “talking shit” behind his back, and demanding explanations for things that weren’t true. It became clear that rather than taking responsibility, my ex was more concerned with his own reputation.

In the aftermath, I confided in a close mutual friend. Someone I believed was a neutral and safe place. But this friend broke that trust, sharing vulnerable conversations with my ex fiancé and worsening the tension. That betrayal cut me deeply. It felt like being hurt all over again, like no space was truly safe. So I chose to set a boundary, deciding not to bring this friend when collecting my belongings, and instead asked someone else. A longtime friend and ex-coworker who is a true emotional support, to come with me.

Even with this plan, I still fear how I’ll be perceived. I’m worried I’ll appear “messy,” like the pain of the last few weeks will be visible on my face. Because it has been brutal, being abandoned again, misunderstood again, and made to feel like my trauma is my fault.

I’ve also admitted that in my darkest moments, I’ve questioned whether surviving that traumatic experience overseas was worth it. That maybe it would’ve been easier not to come back. I feel lost. Like everything I thought I could count on has fallen apart. I don’t know what to live for, or how to believe I’m still worthy of love and safety after being hurt so deeply.

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Pistachio_29385 🇸🇦

6 months ago

Feeling Heartbroken

I left my house with my family today. Near our gate i saw the dentist’s husband. He was standing with some other Pakistani men or smth in uniforms. I didn’t know what they were doing first so I ignored them. I then left to the parking and saw them running after something. I saw their van and it had

Popcorn_52587 🇺🇸 This is against animals. Do not give up and report them because this is not humane. They should have been photographed to prove all of this. If you report it, there will be no evidence against them. I appreciate the sensitivity of the situation. It was difficult, really.

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Potato_19121 🇮🇳

1 year ago

Feeling Angry

hello, im new to this so idk what to say. im in a relationship of 2 months. ive had a lot of traumatic instances involving physical and mental abuse by my father and multiple SA instances by 2 different people. due to this, i get extreme emotions and its really affecting my relationship. i need to b

Mushroom_85544 🇪🇬

I'm justifying why I should cheat. FML.

i find myself thinking about cheating, but when i try to talk myself out of it, I find myself justifying why i should cheat. 1. it would make me happy instead of how miserable i am rn 2. it would make me taste a new woman 3. i would finally know what it feels to be inside a tight hole 4. she would definitely be more fun than mine 5. she would be more into being with me than my wife who is complaining about every breath i take. 6. she would make me interested in sex again after losing my appetite. i try to talk myself out of it but the argument is solid. fml 🤬 i don't need anyone to tell me to be a man or grow up or be responsible. also if you're blunt or not polite, you will be blocked. ...see more

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Apple_52036 🇪🇬

You Don't Need to Solve Everything Today

“Stress has a way of making everything feel heavier than it truly is, pulling your mind in a hundred directions at once. But even in those overwhelming moments, remember that you are not defined by what you’re going through. Take a slow breath and let your thoughts settle. You don’t need to solve everything today. Give yourself permission to pause, to step back, to rest. Strength isn’t only about pushing forward — sometimes it’s in choosing to breathe, reset, and try again with a clearer heart.” ...see more

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Pear_81918 🇩🇿

Going through circles, overthinking everything rn

hey hope ur doing good well im not im going through Circles im overthinking too much I have a lot of family problems extra but I dont really care about them . yes they do effect slowly sometimes I crash out sometimes I cry and that's rarely happens my dad used to hit me and say bad things to me when I was young like 5 till not and im 15 also my grandma she said man don't cry now I cant express my feelings the normal way today I felt soo bad cuz I think everyday that im a useless person I want to be better I want Money to buy clothes and perfume I want to take care of my self and look good its not necessary but the fact that I cant even buy clothes because we don't have money kinda hurts . well I have a lot of clothes but non of them are mine some neighbours and family members I dont have a problem with it actually I like that I get beautiful free clothes but I cant buck what I dont have I also need Money for food cuz I love calisthenics and running and basketball but I only train a little cuz I dont have a reason to u dont even have a reason to live except my mom that would cry if I die she doesn't understand me at all and doesn't help whatsoever but I still love her I also want my own room I dont have brothers I share the room with my 2 sisters I want my personal room to be cool a pc gamer not like my shity pc that can't even run minecraft properly and a calisthenics equipment and a place for my electric stuff I love electronics soo much and robotics I want to learn them soo badly but I cant I dont think because im lazy it's just lack of support no one really care about me I love doing many stuff like playing chess solving rubik's cube (my record is 38seconds :3 ) I have an addiction its gooning I didn't do it for 2 months im kinda proud of my self but not really because I've been doing it for 2 years and watching porn and talking to bitches online I was doing it like 5 to 10 times a day last summer it got to the point that i dont feel bad after doing it I also didn't pray for a wile thats bad I think my addiction did something bad to me idk if I should go to the doctor every time I pee cum comes out I dont even touch my pee pee and it goes out I think my balls work more then normal ppl im not pervert actually I just realised that I also have a crush on a cute short beautiful girl she's kinda weird just like the way I like im obsession with her but sadly she loves another person even tho I see her looking at me a lot in class and talk to me nicely in dm but she loves another guy like I said im an overthinker I always imagine hugging her or aging with her or just talking to her because I never talked to her in class before only in Instagram she knows that she's my crush I told her I told her a little bit of how I think I said that im scared if u get mad at me when I think about us together and a lot of stuff its bad that she doesn't like me but good because we won't be in a haram relationship I have a gf before she's 5 years older she's 20 now she made my life better soo much and now after I broke up with her because I didn't want haram I have a big gap my feelings are fucked I wsnt to be with her soo badly I never met her I never talked to somone near me only online i dont know how to talk im shy my mind is full with stupid thoughts I dont really study it doesn't effect me and my grades I want to get married now that's the only halal way to fill my gap and my lack of love and support I prefer older women probably because they understand and treats me better just like my ex maybe ill have a nother girlfriend if I make sure she will marry me maybe idk anyway if u made it here thx for reading soo much I dont even remember all the things I typed hope u didn't love u and bbye ...see more

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